More on Opinion Versus Judgment©
Okay, time for truth in packaging. I am writing this newsletter because I need to process it for use in my own life. Like so many others during this time of pandemic, I have spent (frittered away is more like it) way too many hours on social media. What I have observed is more than a little disturbing to me, especially when I really want to agree with (‘Like,’ ‘Love,’ etc.) a number of really negative postings, while also wanting to vehemently disagree with many others. But I refuse to do either because I don’t believe it serves me or anyone else.
Yes, I believe in freedom of speech—as long as it doesn’t unfairly hurt someone else. But I really try not to involve myself in the downright hatred and disgust so prominent among many of my social media ‘friends,’ some of whom have been personal friends for decades. And yet, sometimes I find myself momentarily torn between responding and just ‘letting it go.’ Maitreya (channeled by Margaret McElroy) tells us that not speaking one’ s truth blocks various chakras and ends up manifesting physical, emotional, and sometimes even mental problems in one’ s life. I can personally attest to that. But even more frequently in his writings and channelings, Maitreya admonishes us to “Give it no energy.” So, what to do? I’ll say more about that later.
My dilemma (and it is my problem) ultimately boils down to the difference between Opinion Versus Judgment that I discussed in an earlier newsletter. In theory, Opinion leaves open the door of possibility for further communication, understanding, and potential openness to change. Judgment, on the other hand, is final; it closes down discussion and any real hope for understanding. That simple distinction seems pretty clear and reasonable to me, but it is not always so easy to classify any given situation as one or the other.
I have sometimes found my judgments (for example, That’s just wrong!”) spilling over into my opinions (“I don’t believe she/he is a trustworthy source of information.” Sound familiar?
Similarly, my opinions (for example, “I just don’t understand how anyone can think like that!”) all too easily result in summary judgments of people (“Those damn [fill in the blank with whatever adjective you like] people deserve to be [again, fill in the blank with whatever verb you choose]. Heard any variations on that one in the media lately?
It is so tempting to just get one’s opinions “off my chest” by derogating (judging) those whose opinions differ from one’s own. In short, it is sometimes very difficult to keep opinion and judgment in nice, neat separate little boxes.
Some might think this sounds rather silly, similar to the question, “How many angels can dance on the head of a pin?” Surely, I have more to do than diddle away my time with such a trivial issue, so what’s the big deal? Simply this: I have an overriding interest in raising my vibration (becoming a better version of myself), and I try to do everything I can to progress in that direction. In my opinion, participating in (by ‘piling-on’) a judgmental post or tweet says more about me than it does about the person who originated it. They are entitled to their opinion and its consequences (without my judgment), and I am entitled to mine. Whether they choose to judge me is their business. My business is to (try to) learn to judge no one.
Here’s the thing: The Higher Self is essentially unconditional love, and the opposite of that is not hate, it is actually fear. If you carefully examine almost any negative emotion you can think of, it will be a derivative of fear, the primary tool of the Lower Self as Maitreya so frequently informs us. Fear is the basis—the underlying root cause—of almost (I say ‘almost’ because I am afraid I might be wrong in saying ‘always’—LOL!) all negativity. For example, Frustration is the daughter of Fear, and Frustration begets Anger. Judgement, in turn, is the Great Granddaughter of Fear. It is a slippery slope between Fear and Judgment, and one into which all too frequently human beings unwittingly find themselves plunging headlong. It just seems ‘so natural’ to do so.
And it is ‘natural’ when one is operating from the basis of “Unconscious Living” as I describe in my Dancing with the Energy books. I look at the posts of some of my social media ‘friends’ and try not to shake my head in disbelief, but ignorance is bliss. They will begin to awaken from the sleep of Unconscious Living only when they are ready. They really could benefit from reading about “Conscious Living” (my opinion!), but I will not judge them. The Universe will help them to take care of that when they are ready for such a message. Until then, I have my own work to do to try to root out Judgment from my own Fear-based soul memories.
• “Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.” ~ Wilson Kanadi (Indonesian blogger and—in my opinion—a very wise man)
I am even surprised that some of my metaphysical ‘friends’ fall into the same trap, but why not? They are no different than me, and we all have something (actually many things) to learn from the current world situation. So, what to do?
First of all, if you haven’t read or forgot the material discussed in Opinion Versus Judgment, I recommend starting there. Maitreya outlines some excellent reasons and methods for dealing with Judgment. But for those who are either not interested in or not ready for raising their vibration, there is another perspective that is also very helpful.
I am referring specifically to the Law of Attraction (which is also about raising your vibration, but is cleverly disguised as ‘manifesting’ for those who are not yet ready for such heavy stuff). Your thoughts really do create your reality (that’s quantum physics, not just metaphysics!) and what you think about expands in your life. Even more importantly, what you are feeling at the moment is what expands in your life. The question is “What are you thinking and feeling?” If you like feeling angry in your self-righteous indignation, you are welcome to it without my judgment.
• “When you hold on to anger and grudges against another [judgment], you stop the flow of energy with which you can manifest. You stagnate the energy around you. You cannot move forward.” ~ Maitreya (Facebook Fan Page, November 20, 2012)
For myself, I choose to feel more positive because I know that ‘a rising tide lifts all boats.’ In other words, when I feel positive about anything, I am assured that I am doing what will help to raise my vibration in the moment.
• “The prime rule of reality is that we must become in our lives what we choose to experience in the world.” ~ Gregg Braden (1954-; American author of New Age literature)
• “Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~ Mohandas Karamchand (Mahatma) Gandhi (1869-1948; Indian ascetic, leader of Indian freedom movement, and apostle of non-violence; 1913)
It doesn’t matter what other people might think of whatever stand you take; all that matters is that you do what ‘works’ for you, what lifts your boat. The reason is that you are the most important person in your life. Your life is all about choosing to take the opportunities to raise your vibration, nothing else.
• “Many people are wanting to fan your flames of discomfort, because they believe that ‘you’re either with us or against us; if you don’t stand in the same disgust and horror that we are all standing, then you are not with us.’ It’s hard for people to understand that you cannot agree with them and not be against them. That you could be for something without being against something else.” ~ Abraham (Channeled by Esther Hicks, |Orlando, FL, December 15, 2001)
Again, “Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.”
So, what to do? It’s really very simple. I don’t care what side of any political aisle you are on or whatever cause you champion, just try to be for something or someone rather than against anything. Being for something you truly believe in is far more likely to serve you in terms of raising your vibration (soul evolution) because being for a policy or politician is an expression of your opinion while being against a candidate or program can so easily (and often) slide straight into judgment. And there’s the answer to my dilemma; thanks for bearing with me. As the byline on my website and business cards states: “It’s All About the Energy!”
Have a great month!