This report describes subconscious issues that can affect your attitude towards life, and in particular how your relationship with your parents can be affecting your personality.
Hidden Messages Chart Interpretation for
October 19, 1946
We are all looking for unconditional love. Most of us never got it. When we fall in love we think, “Now, finally, here is someone who will give me the (unconditional) love I’ve always wanted.”
So we marry. Then it starts—because we’re not programmed for love. Instead, we are programmed to duplicate our parents’ relationship. Because of this programming, even if we found someone who loved us unconditionally, we would have to push them away.
How can we attract what we are not programmed to receive? We can’t—until we take a conscious look at what we are programmed to attract. Only then can we change our lives.
This program is designed to help us do just that.
Your birth chart interpretation is based on the positions of the planets at the time of your birth. For the benefit of students of astrology, these positions, along with other technical information, are listed below:
Sun 25 Lib 14 Pluto 13 Leo 12
Moon 16 Leo 30 N. Node 12 Gem 57
Mercury 16 Sco 16 Asc. 12 Lib 55
Venus 1 Sag 00 MC 17 Can 14
Mars 16 Sco 51 2nd cusp 11 Sco 04
Jupiter 5 Sco 02 3rd cusp 10 Sag 01
Saturn 7 Leo 56 5th cusp 16 Aqu 26
Uranus 21 Gem 36 6th cusp 14 Pis 34
Neptune 8 Lib 59
Tropical Koch Standard time observed
GMT: 05:31:00 Time Zone: 0 hours West
Lat. and Long. of birth: 52 N 58 1 W 10
Aspects and orbs:
Conjunction: 10 Degrees
Opposition : 10 Degrees
Square : 10 Degrees
Trine : 10 Degrees
Sextile : 7 Degrees
She was an extremely beautiful woman in her mid-thirties. She was also an extremely successful business woman—equal to or better than many men in her profession. She’d come to me for a consultation because she was considering remarrying. Although her two previous marriages had been unsuccessful, she longed for a man with whom she could be happy. She was in my office because she honestly wondered if that were possible.
In the course of the consultation, she shared with me that her mother was successful in her career. Message: BE A SUCCESS IN YOUR CAREER. She also shared that her mother had been married several times, so she was programmed for multiple marriages. Each time my client married, her mother encouraged her to leave her husband. Her mother’s message was: MARRY, BUT DON’T STAY MARRIED. As a child, my client saw her mother win every argument with each of her husbands. Message: ARGUE WITH MEN AND WIN. My client’s father was strong, but distant and unaffectionate. Message: MEN ARE DISTANT AND UNAFFECTIONATE. My client created this situation in her marriages and felt unloved by her husbands. Each of her stepfathers put up a good fight, but ultimately they left. Message: MEN WILL PUT UP A GOOD FIGHT AND THEN LEAVE.
The combination of verbal and non-verbal messages produced a woman who resented men, yet kept turning to them to make her happy. Because she was programmed for marriage to be stormy and her husbands to leave, she created just that. She married strong men and wound up emasculating them. She was looking for love, but her programming would not let her keep it.
Her fiancé played right into the program. He was stubborn and determined. He was not a success in his career, although he had great potential. Each time he came close to success, he’d fall short. His ambitions were high, but he became a dilettante. He made a great impression, but had no money. His programming explained it all. At one point in time, his father had been very important and successful in his career. When the young man was just a boy, his father had been nominated for an extremely prestigious award. Winning this award would have meant financial security for the rest of his life. Unfortunately, another nominee was selected as the winner. From that point on, the son was programmed to COME CLOSE, BUT FALL SHORT, and that’s exactly what he did in every area of life.
His parents had not gotten along. His proud, stoic father had given him the message that THE WOMAN SHOULD PUT THE MAN FIRST. He also felt that MEN WERE MORE INTELLIGENT THAN WOMEN.
These two were programmed for each other. Here was a chauvinist up against a powerful woman; a business failure up against a business success. Neither one, however, was programmed for a warm, loving relationship, though that’s what they both wanted. When faced with a situation like this, the first reaction might be to discourage a marriage, since it seems doomed to failure. Yet, these two people were attracted to each other precisely because they could give one another what each was programmed to receive. And, in spite of their programming, they loved one another. This love could, if they chose, be the impetus to help them see and release their programming and create a warm, loving relationship.
This situation occurs all the time. Our hidden messages are so deeply ingrained in our subconscious that we respond to them unknowingly. For example, if one of your hidden messages is that YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY WHILE A FAMILY MEMBER IS UNHAPPY, you will find that you are never happy because there is always someone who needs your help. Even if you are miles away, just knowing that a relative might be unhappy about something can upset you. After awhile, this message can be triggered simply by the suggestion of happiness–as soon as you feel good you have to feel bad. This totally destroys your enjoyment of life.
Another common message is that YOU WILL NEVER BE AS GOOD AS YOUR FATHER (OR MOTHER, OLDER SISTER, YOUNGER BROTHER, ETC.). If you received this message, you will see to it that you fall short of your goals so as not to surpass him. If he has not been much of a success in his life, where does that leave you?
We have been told that if we will live up to the potential indicated in the natal chart, our lives will work. Why, then, are so many lives not working? The answer is simple: they ARE working, or at least the hidden messages are working, running our lives. By knowing what these messages are, we can be free to be our highest and best, to be limitless.
YOUR FATHER’S MESSAGES
Your father takes you from the security of the home and teaches you how to act in society. He helps you form your public image, the face you want the world to see. The Sun represents your father.
Sun in Libra:
Your father taught you the value of partnership and the importance of balance in your life. He also taught you charm and diplomacy.
Sun in 1st house:
Your father taught you to put yourself first and express your power, authority and individuality. However, his influence can be so strong that he actually inhibits you. The closer the Sun is to the ascendant, the greater his influence and the more you may look like him. While you act like him, you feel that you are your own authority figure. This can be unsettling to him and cause him to compete with you. It is important to avoid self-centeredness.
Sun-Mercury angle more than 10 degrees:
Your father taught you to stand back from situations and people in order to see them objectively. This applies to him as well. Because of your objectivity, you are able to converse with others without constantly bringing the conversation back to yourself and your opinions.
Sun in hard aspect to Jupiter:
Your father is self-indulgent and tends to exaggerate. He can make promises and not deliver. This leads to compensation: he can prove his love by giving you gifts. You do the same thing.
Sun in soft aspect to Uranus:
Your father is inventive, intuitive and individualistic. He encourages you to be your own person. He has a strong humanitarian side that puts the welfare of the group first. He is unique and comfortable with himself. He has passed this along to you.
YOUR MOTHER’S MESSAGE
The most important person in your early years is your mother. Because the Moon rules both the mother and the subconscious, her influence reaches you on the deepest levels. It might be said that since the subconscious is the repository of all past-life experiences, your mother triggers this memory, which is why her influence is so strong.
Your mother’s main message is to look for emotional security. The house in which the Moon is placed natally indicates that area of life in which you hope to find this security. You received this message either directly or indirectly. She told you where to look for it, and you spend the rest of your life looking for it where she said it would be. The sign in which the Moon falls describes your mother, as do the aspects to the Moon. The aspects also tell you if it will be easy or difficult to find the security you seek. Because the Moon is changeable, the promise of emotional security is elusive. Perhaps this is why you keep returning to the place where it is supposed to be, hoping it will be there this time.
Keep in mind that these messages are not necessarily verbal. You can receive them from her actions as well as her words; by her presence as well as her absence.
Moon in Leo:
Your mother is dramatic, though not necessarily showy. She can say or do things for shock value, though, should the need arise. She is creative, loves to have fun and does well with children. All this applies to you as well. She taught you to be a prince (or princess), but will never relinquish her role as queen. She will dominate either obviously or subtly. Your security needs can be fulfilled through being creative and, perhaps, by being in the limelight.
Moon in 11th house:
Your mother taught you to be a humanitarian, a friend. However, SHE is to be your close friend. She taught you to have unusual friends, to mother them, and to look to them for your emotional security, which can also come from being a friend. Nevertheless, your inner circle can change along with your hopes, wishes and goals. Your true freedom comes from letting go of your emotional attachment to your friends.
Moon in hard aspect to Mercury:
There can be confusion between you and your mother, as you are communicating on two different levels. Your conscious and subconscious minds are at odds with each other, which can produce nervousness, confusion and the inability to clearly express your thoughts. You may find it tiring to talk to your mother, as you have to explain things more than once. This carries over into conversation with others, so that communication in general may be confused and unsettling.
Moon in hard aspect to Mars:
There is a conflict between you and your mother. You hold much anger, hostility and/or unresolved resentment toward her. Neither of you can forgive the past. This carries over into your relationships with everyone else, making you competitive, argumentative, and retaliative. Your emotions are right below the surface and can be easily triggered. Your need for a sexual outlet is strong.
Moon in hard aspect to Saturn:
Your mother is moody and depressed, and gave you the message that you’re not supposed to be happy while a family member is unhappy. Also that you are somehow responsible for their unhappiness and, therefore, responsible for making them happy by being unhappy yourself. It’s hard for either of you to have fun—life holds too much responsibility. There can be walls up between your mother and her family, and between you and your mother. You are afraid of the responsibility and emotional commitment required in a close relationship. This can make you cold, distant and unaffectionate. Lack of love can depress you and lead to self-pity.
Moon in soft aspect to Uranus:
Your mother is unique and gave you the freedom to be yourself. Your intuition is keen and your psychic bond with her is strong. You can be innovative, inventive and ahead of your time.
Moon in hard aspect to Pluto:
There is a strong power play between you and your mother based on her need to control you and your need to protect and defend yourself. You may be dependent on her and resent the dependency, since that is what holds you prisoner. Your mutual need to retaliate keeps you hooked into this power play. You find it hard to trust women and can attract jealousy from them. You take things personally and cannot forgive past hurts. This makes you vindictive. You can locate someone else’s jugular with uncanny accuracy. You are possessive of those you love and expect their unfailing loyalty. Your mother gave you powerful messages about sex that can control you.
Moon in soft aspect to North and South Nodes:
Your intuition and emotions are well-balanced and help you learn the lessons your mother is here to teach you. The good rapport you had with women in past lives helps you in this one.
MESSAGES FROM AUTHORITY FIGURES
Saturn is reality and often, restriction. In the natal chart, it can represent your mother, father, grandparents, family —anyone who imposes a restrictive influence on your life and tries to teach you reality through discipline.
Saturn in Leo:
The authority figures in your life acted like they were born to rule. They passed this along to you. It is hard for a king to show love. Pride gets in the way and builds walls between monarch and subjects.
Saturn in 10th house:
The public parent is your authority figure. He/she is traditional, strict, unbending, distant and powerful. He/she instills fear in you, which can manifest as respect, since that is what he/she wants. His/her message is that it is your responsibility to be a leader—yet HE/SHE is the leader, and will not permit you to surpass him/her. At some point in time, your natural leadership ability comes to light and you take command.
Saturn in hard aspect to Moon:
Restrictions imposed by the authority figures in your life gave you the message that you are not supposed to be happy while a family member is unhappy. Inherent in that message is the implication that somehow, you are responsible for their unhappiness and must, therefore, make them happy by being unhappy. You are afraid to get in touch with your emotions. Instead, you suppress them.
Saturn in hard aspect to Mercury:
The authority figures in your life have curtailed your thinking. You think you’re being realistic when, in fact, you’re being negative. The fear that something may go wrong has you looking for it. As a result, you see flaws. This is what the authority figures in your life taught you to do. At times, the fear of what you might see can prevent your looking. Ultimately you do look because you want to be prepared for the worst.
Saturn in soft aspect to Venus:
The authority figures in your life gave you a secure feeling of being loved. As a result, you are loyal in love and able to maintain a long-term relationship. You do not take love lightly. When you love, you willingly assume your responsibility for the relationship. You are not looking for wild, exciting love, but steady, reliable love.
Saturn in hard aspect to Mars:
The authority figures in your life probably gave orders instead of guidance and direction. As a result, you both resent and fear them. This can make you fight the establishment—you feel you could do better. Inhibitions prevent the constructive flow of energies. This can be sexually frustrating. There is a tone of suppressed anger about you.
Saturn in hard aspect to Jupiter:
You experience conflict between doing what you want to do and doing what you feel you ought to do. Even when enjoying yourself, you feel limited. This message came to you from the authority figures in your life who would pull you back when you were enjoying yourself. Their concept of God involves fear. This can curb your enthusiasm since the implication is that if you have too much fun, God will punish you—there is a price to pay for all happiness–every silver lining has a cloud.
Saturn in soft aspect to Neptune:
The authority figures in your life helped you put your dreams into action by looking at them realistically. You have a certain reverence for authority figures. You can combine mysticism with religion, and bring a practical approach to the metaphysical. You’re not afraid to examine your dreams in the light of day.
Saturn in hard aspect to Pluto:
The authority figures in your life did not get along. They resented and rebelled against authority, while exercising their own authority with you. Their double message causes you to lock horns with all authority figures. You resent having to obey someone just because he’s in authority. Your fear of being controlled by those in power makes you rebel. Actually, YOU want to be the authority figure. Once in power, though, you’re afraid of being undermined. In order to protect yourself, you act like the authority figures you resented as a child.
Saturn in soft aspect to North and South Nodes:
Good rapport with authority figures in past lives makes it easy to get along with them in this one. You will learn the lessons that society has to teach. You can attain power and use it wisely.
Pluto is another indicator of your mother’s —and sometimes your grandmother’s—message. Pluto represents total change, control, and transmutation. It is the all-or-nothing planet. Pluto deals with all the mysteries of life: life itself, where it originates, where it goes when it leaves this plane. Pluto and the aspects it makes in your chart describe your mother’s message about and your attitude towards sex.
Pluto’s house placement indicates where there can be a power play with your mother, where you will both try to dominate and control, and where you can bring about a total transformation. You control because you don’t trust. You don’t trust the people who rule the house in which Pluto falls.
While Pluto represents your mother’s message, it can also represent your grandmother’s. Use whichever word applies to you.
Pluto in Leo:
Pluto in Leo gives you the need to control from a position of power and authority, whether out front or behind the scenes. It prevents you from delegating responsibility and compels you to orchestrate and supervise. However, at some point, you can totally change your beliefs about leadership, authority and power, and let go of control. You will understand that the one who needs to be in control is imprisoned by that very need.
Pluto in 10th house:
Your mother’s message is to be in control in your career and be a powerful authority figure. You have a magnetic, compelling public image which she tries to dominate either by riding your coattails or competing with you for the limelight. You do not trust her. You want to dethrone her and assume leadership yourself. You can do so.
Pluto in hard aspect to Moon:
There is a strong power play between you and your mother based on her need to control you and your need to protect and defend yourself. You may be dependent on her and resent the dependency, since that is what holds you prisoner. You find it hard to trust women, and can attract jealousy from them. You take things personally and find it hard to forgive past hurts. This makes you vindictive. You can locate someone else’s jugular with uncanny accuracy. You are possessive of those you love and expect their unfailing loyalty. Your mother’s message about sex is powerful and controlling.
Pluto in hard aspect to Mercury:
It may be hard to communicate with your mother because you cannot trust her not to entrap you with your own words. This can extend to others, making you suspicious and mistrustful. Your mind is quick and deep, but negative psychic impressions can block the flow. You may have a hope-for-the-best-but-expect-the-worst approach to life.
Pluto in hard aspect to Mars:
You may feel strong, yet suppressed resentment at the control your mother exerts over you, and an equally strong need to retaliate. Past hurts are hard to forget, which creates the desire for vindication and conquest. Your competitive side and sexual energies are strong and can get out of hand, which can force you into precipitous action. The underlying feeling of this aspect is KILL OR BE KILLED.
Pluto in hard aspect to Jupiter:
Jupiter expands whatever it touches, so your mother’s control is very strong. Equally strong is your need to be free. This need for freedom is really a desire to be in control so as not to be controlled. Your mother taught you to exaggerate. This can trigger extreme reactions in you. You may tend to be vindictive and justify this by saying you are standing on principle. Your strong sexual drives can be channeled into causes and philosophies.
Pluto in hard aspect to Saturn:
The authority figures in your life did not get along. They resented and rebelled against authority while exercising their own over you. This double message causes you to lock horns with authority figures now. You resent having to obey someone just because he’s in authority. Your fear of being controlled by those in power makes you rebel. Actually, YOU want to be the authority figure. Once in power, though, you are afraid of being undermined. In order to protect yourself, you act like the authority figures you resented as a child.
Pluto in soft aspect to Neptune:
There is a positive psychic bond between you and your mother. Your spiritual side is active, and you have vision and insight.
Pluto in soft aspect to North and South Nodes:
You have a natural understanding of psychic forces and use them positively. There is a deep bond between you and your mother. She is an important teacher to you.
THE FOURTH AND TENTH HOUSES
The fourth house relates to home, family and your deepest emotional security needs. It describes the parent to whom you look for the fulfillment of these needs. Traditional astrology gives the mother rulership over this house because she has been the nurturing parent, the one who stayed home and cared for the family. Today, though, mother often pursues a career, and it is father who provides the emotional security.
The tenth house rules your career, your public image and the authority figure(s) in your life. It is your father who teaches you how to get along in the world outside the home. As such, the tenth house traditionally relates to him.
There are no set rules as to which parent rules which house. Sometimes one parent fulfills both roles. Other times the parents reverse roles. Each chart must be analyzed individually to determine which parent rules the fourth and which rules the tenth.
The relationship between the fourth and tenth is important because your home, family and the security they give you determine how you will do outside the home. If you don’t get what you need from one parent, you may turn to the other, who may or may not be able to fulfill your needs. Lack of emotional security in the home can lead to compensation in the career. The career, then, can become a parent replacement.
The signs on the cusps of the fourth and tenth houses add another dimension to understanding your parents. When trying to determine which house is which parent, it is helpful to exaggerate the descriptions enough to allow yourself to be able to make a distinction between the two.
Capricorn on 4th Cusp:
This parent is self-protective and emotionally attached to the family and his/her public image. He/she is moody and takes things personally.
Cancer on 10th Cusp:
This parent is cold, undemonstrative, and concerned with appearances. Money is very important to him/her.
Saturn in 10th house:
This parent is the authority figure. There is a strong authoritarian note to your upbringing, with grandparents possibly playing an important role. This parent is traditional, strict, unbending, distant and powerful. He/she instills fear in you, which can manifest as respect, since that is what he/she wants. You feel it is your responsibility to be a leader, yet you may be fearful of being restricted. You like the status and power it brings, though. As a result of being told to take your career seriously and be in a position of power, you may not like doing menial tasks. You may have a dictatorial attitude toward subordinates. You may be involved in real estate or a family business.
Pluto in 10th house:
Your mother is the out-front parent and rules this house, unless Pluto describes your grandmother, or unless the Sun or Saturn are here, indicating your father’s—and possibly you grandfather’s—influence as well. Your mother’s message is to be in control in your career and be a powerful authority figure. She tries to dominate your public image either by riding your coattails or competing with you for the limelight. You do not trust her. You want to dethrone her and assume leadership yourself. You can do so, for there can be a reversal of roles between the two of you. You have a magnetic, compelling public image which can assist you to totally change your career at some point in life.
THE ROVING DELEGATES
The signs represent principles to be learned. The house cusp on which a sign falls tells us the area of life in which that principle will be learned. Usually, the principle manifests in more than one area of life, since the ruler, or ROVING DELEGATE of that sign, carries the message to another house.
It makes no difference what sign falls on the cusp in question. We simply link the sign with its ruler’s house position. For example, with Virgo on the fourth and Mercury in the eleventh, the ruler of the fourth is in the eleventh. The same thing is true if Taurus is on the fourth and Venus is in the eleventh. The same concept applies in each case.
The house in which the fourth or tenth house ruler falls gives us more information regarding that parent’s messages.
Ruler of 4th house in 10th:
This parent either assumed both parental roles or, if other chart indications bear this out, reversed roles with the tenth-house parent. The message is to find your emotional security with either the tenth-house parent or in your career.
Ruler of 10th house in 11th:
The authority figure in your life taught you to be a friend in your career, but at the same time, maintain your authority status. This parent wants to be your friend—and wants to be an important friend to you. He or she can influence your friends and choice of friends.
A FINAL WORD
Now that you’ve looked at your programming, you may be wondering if it will control you forever or if there is something you can do to change it, to move past it. There is. You can release it and yourself to God in complete faith and trust and just BE. When you come from BEING, you are coming from unconditional love. You see beauty everywhere. You are one with the whole and know that you are protected and loved.