In the world today there is so much conflict in families; brother against brother, sister against sister, mother against her children. Humanity talks about peace on earth, no war, and yet you cannot change the world until you can change yourself and work through your family fighting, your anger, frustration and fear. 80% of your problems are connected to past life energy, things you have done in previous incarnations that your soul has already let go of. The Self though, the ego has access to your soul memory and once it has taken control, it brings these issues to the surface and invokes them in you; the fear, the anger, the jealousy and other emotions to put you back into the past.
You can own nobody, if someone wants to have control of you, ask the question why? You are your own person; in certain cultures it is normal for children over the age of adulthood, in each culture often different, some at 18, others at 21, but for the parents to still control and instruct their children, but by doing so they often stop the adult child from learning very valuable life lessons, and in fact if they do not learn those lessons in an incarnation, their actions bring the soul back for another try at learning. Often the children come back to become their own Master and not to follow what the parents expect, but to break away and do what their intuition tells them.
Whether it is family expectations of what is expected, or sibling issues; until those issues are healed or the wounds repaired, the earth plane itself cannot heal or change. The emotions take control and while they are there; nothing changes, only detachment from the emotions can enable one to see through the illusion the Self creates. The higher Self-part of you does not care about emotion; it does not react and as such is at peace with itself. Until Humanity is in the Higher Self, the earth plane will continue to be in strife and difficulty.
Who are you at war or conflict with, or are you trying to control someone? Is it worth the effort you are giving to being this way? What a waste of energy, energy you could be spending in manifesting better things in your life. Emotion is energy and like all energy, once it is expended, used, it is no longer there, and then you wonder why you have no energy! Look around you at your family, is there any conflict? If the conflict cannot be healed, then detach from the situation instead of feeding it as you are.
Only when you can detach from the emotions of family, can you find the peace you so long for, many situations you cannot change for those you are at conflict with cannot and will not change, but YOU can change and detach to a better situation, one without struggle and strife; but first you have to conquer your own emotions. The world can be a better place, and one day it will; detachment from the emotions is the key!